[Image description: A pale blue button with the words ”Love is a many gendered thing” printed on it in black block letters. End description.]
Yep, pretty much what the tv tells us. Except, we were missing the yogurt commercials.
I take very little issue with being identified as female, though I don’t personally identify myself that way that often.
But I do have a problem being identified as “sweetie” “darling” “lady” “miss” “ma’am” “cute thing” etc.
I don’t feel disconnected from my biological sex, but I do feel hurt by how being a petite, short, round-face person of my sex means that I frequently get pegged with terms with a a weak and fragile connotation. I have difficulty presenting myself in a way that does not evoke these words from those around me. I struggled with this as a kid, frequently feeling ashamed and upset when I was called “cute,” and I still struggle with this today.
It’s not that these traits being more associated with women that that bothers me. It’s that when I think of myself, I don’t think about how small I am, or how young my features make me appear. It’s that I feel strong, and tough, and like someone who can hold their own, which has nothing to do with my biological sex or my gender identity. But it does, however, appear to have something to do with my body type, because I cannot go one day without being reminded that I am small, that I am young-looking, and that I look to be weak, petite or cute.
I like my body, but I do not like how my body type is received by those around me.
This Revolution has got to be for everybody! Female Solidarity. Please.
How about Woman Solidarity? I think that one is a little less binary and a little more inclusive.